I am quite sure that the resolutions of the Beijing Conference on women liberation was to promote a healthy family life. One in which the woman will be able to contribute positively to the well being of the family in all concerns,be it financial, moral, or spiritual growth.
On the other hand what we see today is quite the inverse. In the bid to prove her relevance to the life of the family, today’s woman forgets the biblical message that encourages her to be submissive, and in turn earn the love of her husband.
There are so many examples of how this happens, but I will only mention a few.
i. She takes a job (a well paying one at that) that takes all of her time, and she rarely has time for family. I recently met a mother of a twin who are about eighteen (18) months old, they are registered in a school creche and they are picked up from six (6) pm most of the time by herself, husband, or a taxi driver. There was a day they were still at school at about half past seven (7.30pm), we actually thought they had been forgotten, so we had to call their mother, not once, nor twice. At all the calls she responded she was on her way.
I decided I must talk to this mother. When the opportunity came I asked her why she comes so late to pick her twin boys. Her answer, "I am a business woman who trades, so my husband and I arrange who picks up the children in the course of the day. On the said day I found out at about four O'clock (4.00pm) that my husband wouldn't be able to pick the boys so I had to set out late."
ii. Another instance is where the woman feels she has not been treated well in the relationship. She therefore claims ownership of the child by naming him after her father or herself. So you hear names like Timothy Nancy, Olawale Funmilayo. In so many cases, the boys have had to change the names when they grow up, especially when it's time for marriage. This is so because it's difficult for the lady to comprehend, for example to be called Mrs. Nancy or does not even know how to present his case to her family. Especially in this part of the world where the man's family name is usually important, when investigating his background.
iii. I have come to realize that some women feel their families are no more relevant as soon as the nuptial knots have been tied. It is unfortunate that they misconstrue the advice given to the families on the wedding day, which tells the families not to interfere in the couple's issues. A partner with a devilish intent will always refer to this when set to achieve a selfish purpose.
Yes, the couples have a right to take their decisions but there are some that involve the families or the family traditions. In such cases you might need to seek their opinion on it and kind of submit where necessary.
The Bible advises that women should try to be virtuous, this I say is important for us as women, as wives, or as mothers for the world to experience peace. I want to say mothers of our time have failed in our duties.
We thought our fathers cheated our mothers by subduing them. But we have forgotten God rewarded them by making them enjoy the best from their children. There is this joke that says, "While the mother gets a piece of cloth, the father gets a cutlass." Most times they live longer than their
husbands, maybe because the men were always biting more than they could chew.
Our daughters need to listen and learn from their grannies, and learn from their mother's mistake. Most of the new generation mothers have had to marry and remarry only to find out that the men are all the same, so they decide to stay single. Most of the time, that is not very palatable. It could be very lonely, and at times you find the children calling for a reconciliation.
I believe in women empowerment but I respect and appreciate a virtuous woman. Our loving father who rewards every good deed will always reward us as we persevere in our service as wives and mothers.
We are surely winners in the Lord.
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